how do u get over feeling lonely despite attending many social events? i feel the loneliest whenever im around many people/after a social event because i feel like, despite the time and effort i put in into making a connection, they still fail to understand me.
That's a great question and I can relate to the feeling. There are many ways to build social connection and it's best to go with what makes you feel comfortable and happy. If you're introverted, busy social events might not be the best place to connect with people, and small groups/1-on-1s might be ideal (I'm in this boat). On the other hand, if you're high in extraversion, busy social events can be great but perhaps you haven't found the right crowd yet. You could explore groups who are coming together around some common interest so you relate to people better (Meetup is good for this).
It really comes down to why you feel people don't understand you and what your preferred social environment is. Avoiding loneliness doesn't necessarily mean having many friends, it can mean having one or two very good friends who you see or talk to regularly.
Hope that's helpful but please let me know if I've missed the point or you have another question!
how do u get over feeling lonely despite attending many social events? i feel the loneliest whenever im around many people/after a social event because i feel like, despite the time and effort i put in into making a connection, they still fail to understand me.
That's a great question and I can relate to the feeling. There are many ways to build social connection and it's best to go with what makes you feel comfortable and happy. If you're introverted, busy social events might not be the best place to connect with people, and small groups/1-on-1s might be ideal (I'm in this boat). On the other hand, if you're high in extraversion, busy social events can be great but perhaps you haven't found the right crowd yet. You could explore groups who are coming together around some common interest so you relate to people better (Meetup is good for this).
It really comes down to why you feel people don't understand you and what your preferred social environment is. Avoiding loneliness doesn't necessarily mean having many friends, it can mean having one or two very good friends who you see or talk to regularly.
Hope that's helpful but please let me know if I've missed the point or you have another question!